Happiness vs women

23 03 2013

Recently, I came across a post on Facebook, which ran as follows:


  1. Feed him
  2. Sleep with him
  3. Leave him with peace
  4. Don’t check his phone (Msgs)
  5. Don’t bother him with his movements

So whats so hard about that ?


It’s really not too difficult but…. To make a woman happy, a man only needs to be: 

  1. a friend
  2. a companion
  3. a lover
  4. a brother
  5. a father
  6. a master
  7. a chef
  8. an electrician
  9. a plumber
  10. a mechanic
  11. a carpenter
  12. a decorator
  13. a stylist
  14. a sexologist
  15. a gynecologist
  16. a psychologist
  17. a pest exterminator
  18. a psychiatrist
  19. a healer
  20. a good listener
  21. an organizer
  22. a good father
  23. very clean
  24. sympathetic
  25. athletic
  26. warm
  27. attentive
  28. gallant
  29. intelligent
  30. funny
  31. creative
  32. tender
  33. strong
  34. understanding
  35. tolerant
  36. prudent
  37. ambitious
  38. capable
  39. courageous
  40. determined
  41. true
  42. dependable
  43. passionate


  1. give her compliments regularly
  2. Go shopping with her
  3. be honest
  4. be very rich
  5. not stress her out
  6. not look at other girls


  1. give her lots of attention
  2. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
  3. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes. 


never forget

  1. *birthdays
  2. *anniversaries
  3. *valentine
  4. *arrangements she makes. 

true or false?

Though it clearly is an exaggeration and mostly meant to be in jest, I felt there is a hint of truth about it. May be more than just a hint.

While women really don’t need all of the above to make them happy, I agree that their list would be definitely longer than men’s list. 🙂

It clearly can be deduced from the men’s list that they largely seek women for comfort and pleasure. I wonder  why and rather disappointed that  even “companionship” is left out of the list.

However, I feel that the list provided here of men’s needs (to make them happy) ought to include a few more things. Just off the top of my mind, men also want their women to be

  • Master chefs
  • Housekeepers – (spot clean house  and everything in order – cleaning, scrubbing, washing, ironing, dusting etc.)
  • Nurses
  • Caretakers of their parents
  • Above all, make them feel most  important; “worship” is even better 🙂

To be able to do all the above of course, a woman needs to be adept in planning and organizing, have lots of patience, be skilled, and nothing more. 😉

Doesn’t a man really care enough whether his woman is cheerful, honest, warm, passionate, loving, compassionate, understanding, and supportive ? May be these are only nice-to-haves. 🙂 Intelligent, capable, courageous, ambitious are perhaps undesirable or even unimaginable for many – out of syllabus stuff. Lol!

So, why do women want much more from their men, while men seem to want so little? It’s the most important advantage of being a man in this society. You don’t need another person to define yourself, to find meaning in your life. As a consequence you can view and seek another person only for pleasure, comfort and at best, companionship.

But this has not been the case with women for I’m not sure how long . They believe, in fact they are conditioned/ made to believe, that a woman is incomplete until she has a man in her life.  Marriage is the holy grail; husband is the essence of her existence and life.  So she seeks just that from her man – a one-stop solution to her problems, concerns, pleasures, desires, wishes, whatever.

So, girls have pity on our men and rise to the occasion. They are stifling under our dependence, expectations and needs. 🙂 Let’s not burden them any longer and free them;  view them only as sources of comfort and pleasure just like they view us. It’s not very difficult. We have only our centuries long conditioning – in the form of literature, media, culture, social norms – to fight off. Let’s define ourselves and find meaning and purpose in our lives independent of any other being. Let’s give them a lot easier way to make us happy. Let’s not give our men a reason to lament on these grounds again.  🙂

Note: This post is just meant to be in “jest” just as the original post on FB was meant to be. However it’s open to interpretation. 😉




2 responses

23 03 2013

I think I must be a man because I prefer the first list! ;o)

24 03 2013

Ha! If you are a woman, you are the new/modern woman – the need of the hour! Congratulations!

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